Sex is bad. But sex feels good. I'm confused.

Like everyone else, I walk around and accept the world as is. It is what it is. And I must work within the bounds of that reality. But every once in a while, I stop and ask why. Why are things the way they are? How did we get here?

It's a curious theme in stories how temptation is associated with death. Years ago, I asked the question why in many cultures is "sex" is considered as "bad". I read an analysis of Christian themes which stated that in order to get into Heaven, we must struggle and suffer, the keyword here being "suffer". As a consequence, anything "pleasurable" like sex had to be "bad". Suffer good, pleasure bad. Suffer Heaven, pleasure Hell.

I'm bringing this up because we all go about our daily business, accepting the world, our culture, etc. "as is". Things are because they just are. We never stop to ask why.

The problem crops up when we try to reconcile these supposedly conflicting points of view. Is sex bad? Is there something inherently wrong with sex?

I believe the answer to that question is a resounding no. Our problem is that we live in a culture which says sex is bad, and how in Heaven's name do we live with the cognitive dissonance of "sex is bad", but sex just feels so damn good? We're being told one thing, but our experience says otherwise. Somebody's lying to us.

I've jokingly said that there is so much sexuality in Second Life that SL really stands for Sex Life. With the freedom of our online identity, we can say or do anything we want without the fear of repercussions, and we choose to be the sexual creature we long to be.

Sexism
In this analysis, connecting sex to bad, the female, starting with Eve, has been connected to sex and temptation, and she herself has been qualified as bad. Sexism, the Double Standard, misogyny, etc., all these ideas are founded on the misinterpretation of suffer good, pleasure bad.

Personally, I think sex is a gift from God. When done right, it is our opportunity to "bond" with another human being, to transcend our individualism and become spiritual, become one with another.

Final Word
The inspiration of this posting came from the picture Willing Sacrifice by Zee Blackcrest. It made me think of the religious themes of temptation, evil, and sex.

In writing this article, I went back and researched the ideas. The duality between good and bad, light and darkness, the spiritual and the physical has existed for thousands of years. The philosophical school of Asceticism promoted the (supposed) nobleness of the spirit over the material including the flesh. In looking at all this, it's no surprise we are a confused race. As I said above we are told sex is bad, but then discover sex feels good. Okay, I'm going to Hell. Ha, ha, ha!

I've gotten way too heavy for this posting. So, I'll end on a much lighter note:

Apart from everything else, sex is just f*cking hot! Ha, again!

All the best to you in your worlds (plural: SL & RL). :-)


References

photo credit:
"Willing Sacrifice" by Zee Blackcrest (zanderblackcrest) with Olive Spring (olivespring)
published 2025-11-02 on Primfeed: used with permission.

Thanks to Zee Blackcrest and Olive Spring for this photograph. I'm quite sure neither one of them thought of winding up in this rather serious dissertation on temptation, and I apologize if this is, well, not what you were expecting. :-)

2025-11-04