My shtick: Would the real Hugh Toussaint please stand up?

I like to say that in SL, I’m playing myself. I’m not a vampire, Neko, or furry. I don’t have a lengthy backstory about being abandoned as a child and having grown up fending for myself in a world full of gangsters and drugs.

My SL is like my RL. Well, sort of. Obviously, in SL there are no guard rails. Say or do anything you want without any fear of repercussions in RL Break the rules, ignore the taboos, heck, flout the law.

I am a gentleman. I am polite and respectful. I wear a suit and tie. And I do not behave like a jackass.

Over the years, the number one complaint I’ve heard from the ladies has been about the guy who walks around with his junk out, asking every woman he meets “Wanna f*ck?”

I don’t do that. I can’t imagine doing it. I remain startled that anybody would think that such an approach would work under any circumstances.

Now, does that mean I’m some sort of goodie two shoes? Old saying:

Don’t be a perverted asshole. Be a perverted gentleman.

However, I strictly follow my rule of the three rights:

At the right time, in the right place, with the right partner, anything is possible.

If those three rights are not in alignment, I don’t get my junk out.

I do not say I’m a dom. I’m certainly not a sub. Although, over the years, I’ve been amused at the reaction to me being polite. People have been surprised. People have asked if I’m a Dom. People have asked if I’m a sub. But invariably, once people realize I’m serious, they seem to be delighted. Oh my God, a man who says please and thank you and is not going to show me a dick pic!

I come to SL to have fun. I hope everyone with whom I interact also has fun. Their fun is important to me.

I don’t build. I’m not a photographer or artist. I don’t work, for instance as a DJ or a store owner.

I come to SL for the people. I enjoy hearing their story. I enjoy the interaction. Sometimes it clicks, sometimes it does not. No matter. I remain polite and respectful.

And I play it by ear. Sometimes, a relationship may blossom into something else, but only with the three rights in alignment. I believe things should happen organically, so I don’t believe in forcing anything.

Seduction isn’t making someone do what they don’t want to do.
It is enticing someone into doing what they secretly want to do already. –Unknown

Male or female, I’m positive and supportive. I gain nothing by criticizing or belittling. I would hope to leave everyone with a smile.

My Favourite Role
The woman is an irresistible siren, a creature of great beauty and charm. I am the enamored male, utterly defenseless in face of such allure. This can lead to some amusing exchanges.

What am I doing?

In my experience, the more powerful a woman is, the more confident she is. The more confident she is, the more passionate she is. (passionate = sexual)

But let me be clear: It’s not about sex. If it clicks; it clicks. But I don’t set out with the goal of adding a notch to my belt. The three rights have to be in alignment. Rather, I’m looking for a “connection”, whether only friendship or more intimate.

But I do want people to walk away with a sense of well-being, of feeling good about themselves. I want to be a good experience. I want our encounter, whatever it may be, to be a positive force.

They may forget what you said but they will never forget how you made them feel.
-Carl W. Buechner (misattributed to Maya Angelou)

At the heart of it all, I like to think I’m a nice guy. Polite, respectful, friendly, with a liking for humour. As I jokingly like to say:

A man should make a woman do two things: moan and laugh. And probably more of the latter.

To summarize, in suggesting the possibility of “clicking”, I would like to end with a touch of anticipation, with a hint of “edginess”, with me being a little tongue-in-cheek.

I’m a gentleman.
Until it’s time to not be.

All the best to you in your worlds (plural: SL & RL). :-)

2025-11-11