I said it was Weird. I didn't say I wouldn't do it.

As I've said repeatedly, you come to Second Life and get an avatar, a new identity, and most importantly, anonymity. You can say or do anything you want without fear of repercussions in your real life. You are not going to be burned at the stake.

What do you do with "total and absolute freedom"?

A few years back, I was standing on the most scandalous of SIMs. Rampant perversion and depravity were everywhere. I said hello to a woman, X. All names have been changed because everyone was as guilty as hell.

X informs me she was just passing through; she got there by accident; out of curiosity, she thought to have a look.

Yeah, right.

It turns out she was hesitant because she was apprehensive about how I was going to react. We're in SL with the protection of anonymity, and she was still worried about what I was going to think about what turned out to be a secret fantasy she had been carrying around for years.

At that particular moment, she didn't see the joke. What was I doing standing at that LM (landmark)?. Ha, ha, ha!

We come to the table with a set of preconceived notions about the things. We may have no knowledge whatsoever about some "thing", and yet, we have an opinion about it. I'm reminded of an old joke, as if said by a woman.

"You want me to what in my mouth?"

I've done some crazy sh*t in my life. In SL and in RL. But what was interesting was that I and a partner tried this "thing". Neither one of us started out by saying "Eew!" We tried it and afterward, we assessed it. Was it good? Was it pleasurable? Was it fun? Would we do it again?

The curious part was that in doing it together, it provided us with a bonding moment, a shared experience. Even if we both felt this "thing" was not worth repeating, this shared experience was something we could laugh about together later on.

I'm neutral about Sushi. If the menu had Sushi and filet mignon, I'd pick the filet mignon 100% of the time.

However, a friend wanted me to take her out for sushi. I like my friend and wanted to please her. I "got into it". Within the context of our date, I became enthusiastic for our night out and delved into the world of sushi. I had a good time. I sampled things I don't normally eat. And with my friend, I had a new and enjoyable experience. I'd still order filet mignon, but if my friend wanted to go out for sushi again, I'd do it.
As you may be able to guess, if I started out with "Eew! Sushi!" I would have missed out on a good experience in life. At the end of the day, it turns out I'm not so much against sushi but more "neutral" about it. Besides, I derive a great deal of satisfaction from pleasing my partner, and her enthusiasm for sushi spurs me on and adds to my enjoyment.

So, I return to my joke. "You want me to put what in my mouth?"

Well, that's weird, but what the heck, I'll give it a shot!

All the best to you in your worlds (plural: SL & RL). :-)

2025-10-18